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What will this new year hold for us …………………

HAPPY NEW YEAR and all that goes with it and that is the last time I am saying those words till next year, damn it can become such an overused phrase that you, later on, start doubting the sincerity of saying them, let us just hope that the new year’s angels have heard some of those mentions and make them happen.

OK, so now that we are in fact starting this new year, whether we are ready or not, let’s look at the options we have to make it work. If we are presented with choices in a certain situation, will we make the right decision and in the same instance if you were not given any choices would you regret the fact that you had no choice???

No matter what the circumstances we are never happy with the way it rolls out, we always assume that given a choice we would have made the right decision when in fact it is very possible that you would have made the wrong choice but ego makes us forget the fact that we are human and quite fallible in anything we do.

Entering this new year we should remember that life is a gift and all we have to do is our best to make it worthwhile and forget about all the jealousy and bitterness because someone else’s life looks better than yours, you don’t know what goes on in another person’s life till you have walked in their shoes and those shoes might be the cause of huge blisters so be careful what you wish for, you might just get it !!!!!!

If you are in a situation where there are just too many instances where you feel irritated, aggravated or undermined then you owe it to yourself to work it out and make it work, if you feel that you can’t have things your way then I say, walk away before you make all the people involved so unhappy that the situation get’s out of hand.

This year like the beginning of all others will be like a small child that will have to learn about all the rights and wrongs, how to do things, how to differentiate between I can or I can’t, how to listen, how to tolerate others, how to choose between the things they don’t like and the things they prefer to do and at the end of it all we hope to stand at the end of 2018 and say “WOW I made it and achieved most of the things I set out to do in the past year”

So here we go then, let’s get the wheels rolling on the new year’s train, if you feel you should hop off for a rest or cup of coffee, drink, etc at a certain station then go right ahead and enjoy the break, this train will pass again and you can just hop on and continue the journey.

Safe driving to all of us and don’t use the brakes too much, let’s just fly and enjoy the ride ……………….

I am the kind of person that people trust with their secrets, the go-to person when they need advice, the shoulder people like to cry on and the best friend you can wish for, so I want to offer my expertise to others out there with a need to confide in an outsider because they want their personal business to stay private. I have lived an interesting and exciting life raising 2 kids as a single parent, I have taken many different directions in life to make the most out of situations placed before me. Many a milestone was not an easy one but with the Grace of God, support of my friends and family and sheer determination I have overcome them and moved on. I have often been in a "lonely" place in my life and this does not mean without a man, it means that I wished I had someone to talk to and throw around ideas with, listening to their take on a situation and feel that it is OK I can do this ....... When you live a rogue life, I found you don't always want to admit to the outside world how hard it is, they might even envy you and say, gosh she is such a strong person, nothing ever gets her down, she lives life to the fullest and seems fearless in what she is doing. The phrase "Only fools rush in where Angels fear to tread " applied to me for sure, I tried to hide my insecurities with bold moves and looking confident about it. Little did people know just how much I needed that WRONG NUMBER to call and vent just a little bit whilst listening to some reassuring sounds. I am now retired and feel a huge empty space within me, I miss the interaction with people and the general buzz of normal day to day life around me. My thoughts are that there must be lots of people out there with the same basic needs of comfort, advice and a WRONG NUMBER to call just to vent, and that is why I have started this Blog. Please join me and let's take this journey together.