Let’s explore what we see as normal.

The first thing people say when you welcome them back from holiday or back to work, etc is “Yip, Back to normal”
But what is normal because for many people this means different things, like to the rich it means we will carry on getting richer, the clever will carry on studying and accumulate knowledge, the children will go back to school and meet up with friends but then there are those who will go back to the drudgery, loneliness, heartache, suffering and financial struggles that they have to face on a daily basis.

Listening to how people talk about their own situations I sometimes wonder if it is not perhaps a very similar situation for most of us but we just have different ways of perceiving our own problems.

Often when I hear people telling their stories in general conversation I will think to myself, is this for real, you are such a drama queen because I might think the whole affair being talked about is not so bad at all but to the person telling their story it was a very dramatic situation, then you get the times when I want to shake someone and tell them to wake up and smell the coffee because the whole story upset me so much and I don’t understand why they can’t see the danger signs.

On the other side of this coin, I find myself telling stories about happenings in my life and getting the same varied reaction as what I often feel with other people’s stories. So, tell me please whose perception is right and whose is wrong. Looking in from the outside does not make us experts on another person’s life as is the case in reverse.

Maybe once we can learn to be more tolerant of each other and actually talk and listen to our fellow human beings and by being more perceptive of other people’s situations, maybe then we can have more compassion when they say “Yip, back to normal” and realise when you are in fact talking to a person that could use some friendship, moral support etc.

No matter what it means and to whom, let’s try and be more understanding and compassionate to at least one new person in your life this year, it could not only make a huge difference in someone else’s life but it could even mean that you could end up feeling very proud of yourself for making a difference.

So let us all explore the “Back to normal” of our fellow human beings that we come in close contact with and see if we can share the love ………………………..

I am the kind of person that people trust with their secrets, the go-to person when they need advice, the shoulder people like to cry on and the best friend you can wish for, so I want to offer my expertise to others out there with a need to confide in an outsider because they want their personal business to stay private. I have lived an interesting and exciting life raising 2 kids as a single parent, I have taken many different directions in life to make the most out of situations placed before me. Many a milestone was not an easy one but with the Grace of God, support of my friends and family and sheer determination I have overcome them and moved on. I have often been in a "lonely" place in my life and this does not mean without a man, it means that I wished I had someone to talk to and throw around ideas with, listening to their take on a situation and feel that it is OK I can do this ....... When you live a rogue life, I found you don't always want to admit to the outside world how hard it is, they might even envy you and say, gosh she is such a strong person, nothing ever gets her down, she lives life to the fullest and seems fearless in what she is doing. The phrase "Only fools rush in where Angels fear to tread " applied to me for sure, I tried to hide my insecurities with bold moves and looking confident about it. Little did people know just how much I needed that WRONG NUMBER to call and vent just a little bit whilst listening to some reassuring sounds. I am now retired and feel a huge empty space within me, I miss the interaction with people and the general buzz of normal day to day life around me. My thoughts are that there must be lots of people out there with the same basic needs of comfort, advice and a WRONG NUMBER to call just to vent, and that is why I have started this Blog. Please join me and let's take this journey together.