Sudden Illness and how it impacts on your life. On this Helpline Blog we discuss this issue.

As a rule, people go about their daily lives without thinking about the obvious, we secretly assume that things will stay as they are and hopefully nothing will happen to rattle our little cages of bliss.
When something does happen no matter how small or trivial we panic and mostly overreact, but once this little crisis has passed we go back to a normal life of bliss again.

Most of us can’t even imagine the kind of reaction we will have if a really bad situation or condition should derail our little train of happiness, so let’s sit back for a moment and think about it.

If you should suddenly find out that you, your partner, a child or a close family member has a life-threatening illness what would you do and how will you carry on with life from here onwards. I can’t imagine that happening to me but I have thought about it often and every time I think about it my solution to the problem changes, the reason being that my frame of mind has changed since the last episode so my perception of the problem is now different.

The hardest thing of all must be acceptance of this situation and how to cope with the added stress, pain and change of lifestyle that this condition will bring about. Suddenly being forced to face facts and start sorting out your affairs here on earth must be a very disheartening and sobering thing to do, how do you then feel in your most private thoughts and feelings and how do you cope with emotions running wild.

People mostly have their pride and won’t admit or even let on if things are really bad, saving their nearest and dearest from the truth and avoiding the situation where they become a burden for as long as possible whilst the same nearest and dearest people they are hiding the truth from just want to be involved as much as possible and be a helpful and loving pillar of strength.

I guess the most important thing to strive for here is a perfect balance of staying away or being there when someone needs it, but on how to achieve this balance I have no idea.

Please leave some comments on the Helpline Blog.

To communicate, I guess will be the most important key here and people will have to be more honest with each other than ever before to ensure hurt feelings stay at a minimum and silently you will have to teach yourself to pick up on the smallest little signs of distress and offer assistance in a diplomatic way.

To everyone out there going through this kind of situation right now I want to say this, you are all Angels in disguise and no one will ever realize exactly how much this takes out of the next person until we are in this situation ourselves. My advice to you all would be, have faith and stay strong.

I am the kind of person that people trust with their secrets, the go-to person when they need advice, the shoulder people like to cry on and the best friend you can wish for, so I want to offer my expertise to others out there with a need to confide in an outsider because they want their personal business to stay private. I have lived an interesting and exciting life raising 2 kids as a single parent, I have taken many different directions in life to make the most out of situations placed before me. Many a milestone was not an easy one but with the Grace of God, support of my friends and family and sheer determination I have overcome them and moved on. I have often been in a "lonely" place in my life and this does not mean without a man, it means that I wished I had someone to talk to and throw around ideas with, listening to their take on a situation and feel that it is OK I can do this ....... When you live a rogue life, I found you don't always want to admit to the outside world how hard it is, they might even envy you and say, gosh she is such a strong person, nothing ever gets her down, she lives life to the fullest and seems fearless in what she is doing. The phrase "Only fools rush in where Angels fear to tread " applied to me for sure, I tried to hide my insecurities with bold moves and looking confident about it. Little did people know just how much I needed that WRONG NUMBER to call and vent just a little bit whilst listening to some reassuring sounds. I am now retired and feel a huge empty space within me, I miss the interaction with people and the general buzz of normal day to day life around me. My thoughts are that there must be lots of people out there with the same basic needs of comfort, advice and a WRONG NUMBER to call just to vent, and that is why I have started this Blog. Please join me and let's take this journey together.